As will come as a surprise to no one, on the Meyers-Briggs scale I am all J and no P. I am all about making a decision and scooting along the path, dithering about a choice and being in the process feels like a wee bit of hell to me. Pick something and get on with it; if it doesn’t go well, a different choice can always be made along the way.
All things considered, this has worked for me. After all, I’m still above ground and, for the most part, functioning. But I am often surrounded by people who need to do otherwise. Many people I love truly need to abide in the process.
Supporting and caring for them as they go through this is one of my greatest challenges. No matter what extremely difficult episodes I have been in, if I had any decision to make, I made it and felt comfort. Watching others struggle winds me up in the most taut of knots. But I do my damnedest to just watch. To listen and to be with them; for this is not my decision.
Then I decide to go for many walks around the block, bending God’s ear about all these process junkies he sends my way.
Annemarie, here’s another side of that. People are sometimes bad actors; they do stuff they shouldn’t do. When a J encounters such ill, he or she tends to make a decision about a PERSON…and of course wants to stick with that decision. One of the functions of a P called by God? To hold out hope, including the hope that an erring colleague can be better tomorrow. Because, with the grace of God, they can. God needs a J to get the newsletter out on time and plug the hole in the dyke and stop whining. But God also needs a P to serve as witness to the hope that bad things (and people) can get better, to look for more evidence that “God is working his purpose out,” to move into a future that is bright with promise. your sister, pat